When you feel like giving up, DON’T. Keep going, and keep failing. One of the best feeling in life is when we succeed in one thing after we failed for several times.
5. Stay fit – Health is Wealth
Be healthy, not necessarily you have to be slim and sexy but at least be HEALTHY. My mom used to tell me to eat healthy foods and stay healthy. As a kid (or until now), we used to (or still) eat junk foods, drink soft drinks and other unhealthy foods but when we grow old, that’s the time complications arise. You’ll learn that as your body changes in your late 20s. The increasing number of injuries, slowing-down metabolism, and appreciation for early nights will make you realize that you’re not indestructible.
6. REAL FRIENDS are Treasure.
You will lose some of your friends. Not everyone you were friends with in grade school and high school will matter to you. You will realize that you no longer have anything in common with many of your friends from high school, and that’s okay. In fact, you will have smaller circle of friends now, but they’re BETTER for you. This is common as you go through life. Its better to be QUALITY OVER QUANTITY (always).
Having two to three best friends that you can ALWAYS count on is better than having 15 friends that you can’t even talk to when you needed them. Remember to always keep in touch with your REAL friends. Once in a while, talk to them, ask how they are doing, thats one of the secret on how to keep your friendship ongoing and to last even years from now. Who knows, maybe you already found the girls who will turn into your bridesmaids.
7. First Job? Dream Job? Career Path? – WORK, Work, Work.
In high school and college, you always dreamed about having your first job, your DREAM job, but when you finally enter the real world, things will eventually change. You have to set your long term goal as early as possible for you to achieve it.
By this time, you have to decide which career path you want to pursue for a long term. Where you thought you would end up is different from where you will really end up. Your first job will just be an eye-opening experience that will really show you what you want to do for the rest of your life.
Quit your job if you are not happy. Trust me, the world is big. There are tons of opportunities waiting for you. You will find another job that suits you, that will make you feel happy. No one ever looked back and said “I wish I stayed in this job I hated”.
8. THINK OF YOUR FUTURE – Save Up!
(well, my number 8 is somewhat connected to the previous one)
Heartbreak is necessary. (I know I know.. I sound insane) but it’s true. When you first get your heart broken, it tends to feel like your entire world is crashing down, it feels like you can’t survive without that person, feels like you would rather sleep all they than doing productive things. But, all those feelings will eventually go away. In the end, every heartbreak forces you to take a step back and re-evaluate your happiness. It forces you to stand on your own two feet and face life head on. It gives you time to learn who you truly are as a person. It forces you to learn how to make yourself happy, how to fulfill your own needs, how to survive on your own.
15. Always, Love Yourself FIRST.
This is the most important thing that heartbreak teaches you. You need to love yourself first. You cannot have a healthy and happy relationship until you learn how to love yourself. People say, “You have to love yourself first before loving someone else”, at first, I thought this saying doesn’t really matter at all but it made me realize how unhappy I was with myself before and how that affected my relationship. Always know your worth. How will men respect you if you don’t show them your worth? You will really feel true happiness once you feel confident and contented with yourself.
16. Learn how to say “NO”.
Temptations are everywhere, there will always be peer pressure and if someone is trying to convince you to do something you don’t want to, learn to fight for yourself and say no. If someone abuses your generosity, character, kindness- they don’t care about you. If someone can manipulate your emotions, thoughts, actions- they don’t respect you. You have to realize that saying no doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a strong person, a smart person, a happy person.
17. Forgive and Forget.
It’s always better this way, right? Who hasn’t at some point advised a friend or loved one to just “forgive and forget”? And yet when it’s our turn to be the forgiver, it can be a different story. Why is it that forgiveness is so much easier said then done? Our past experiences of being hurt are often the reason why it is so hard to forgive and forget. Sometimes, if we try too hard to forget what happened we might find ourselves just repeating a similar painful scenario down the line.
Always forgive people and when you hurt them, ask for forgiveness. Be who you are, once you learn to forgive and forget, you’ll see how life starts getting happier and easier than before.
18. Live in the Moment.
QUIT blaming your past, they are NOT the reason why you feel miserable today. It’s not them, its YOU. Don’t let your past weigh you down, and instead turn it into something motivational. Once you let go of the blame, you’ll find it very empowering that you, and only you, hold your future in your hands.
19. Accept People For Who They Are.
You can’t change a person no matter how hard you try. I believed in the saying “treat others the way you want to be treated”. But the reality is that not everyone is going to treat you the way you treat them. Not everyone is going to love you as much as you love them. Not everyone is going to respect you the way you respect them. Not everyone is going to have as big of a heart as you do. Learn that, accept that, and stop trying to change people. You are only setting yourself up for disappointment. Once you learn to see people for their true colors, you learn how to determine who deserves a spot in your life. You learn who is worth your time and who is simply not.
20. Growing Up is Really Not Easy.
How I wish I can stay young forever. Growing up means more responsibilities, more failures and challenges o face. Life doesn’t get easier as we grow older. While it may be exiting and new to venture out on your own, it doesn’t come without its challenges.
The truth is your life is just starting as you reach 20, and you are staring to figure out the best ways to get through it. You will feel like a roller coaster – you will laugh, cry, fall in love, be happy and get disappointed. But that’s all part of the fun!
Your 20s will make you stronger and wiser. Just enjoy the ride! Before you know it, you’ll be hitting the 30 milestone, and you’ll come to realize that you did learn something during the of transitioning from young adult to adulthood. 🙂