Well, today January 16, 2019… I turn 24. YIKES. I feel OLD. I remember when I was a kid, visioning what my life would be like when I turn 24. Let me tell you, my life is not what I pictured it would be like (I guess we are all on the same boat?)
Being in your 20s can sometimes be scary, stressful and I have to admit, it’s pretty challenging. Life is not like a fairytale we believed in when we were a kid, where we have our prince charming riding in a carriage or a Koreanovela where they make us believe that we live in a world where love always win. Life is not like a rom-com movie which always has a happy ending. I realized that life and relationships don’t always end up on a high note.
For the past months, I really didn’t want this day to come… I think it’s because I don’t want to keep growing up, I’m scared of what future might bring. Sometimes, to be honest I still have no idea with what I am doing with my life. But at the same time… I feel great. As they say, “Age is just a number”.
To be honest, I struggled a lot for the past 24 years and of course, there were many lessons I learned along the way.
What better way to celebrate my 24th birthday than to share with you few of the important things I’ve learned in my 24 years, right? Maybe some of you can relate.
Growing up, I realized that “Happily Ever After” doesn’t always exist. Everyday you wake up and decide to love your partner (if you have one) and your life including the good, bad and ugly days. Some days are struggle and you feel down/shitty but for some days you feel like the happiest and luckiest person on Earth. We can not expect that everyday will be a happy day for us.
Committing to being in a relationship with someone is an actual grown up commitment thing now that you’re getting older, which scares the hell out of you (am I right?). You’ll wake up one day realizing that, those puppy love days are over and it’s time to think of our future.
At the end of the day, we all need someone who knows how to listen and understand. Everyone deserves a person like that.
One of the greatest lessons I learned while growing up is that if you want a healthy relationship, never ever LIE. It’s hard to earn other people’s trust once you break it. Instead of lying, you need to communicate with one another. We are humans, we are not mind readers. Learn to speak up and hear other people’s opinion too without getting angry. Learn to control your emotions even though its hard. It’s always the best solution in fixing problems.
They say communication is always the key, but for me… ACCEPTANCE is also one. It’s okay to make mistakes, its part of life. Being an adult doesn’t happen overnight, it’s a long process of adapting and adjusting to our everyday life while we grow older. We learn to accept these changes as life goes on and on and on.
Change is really coming. As we grow older, the way we think and talk also change, we learn to be more sensitive with what we say and do for us not to offend other people, responsibilities arise. By this age, we have to pay our own bills – whether a credit card bill, insurance, etc, we learn to manage our finances and live within our budget.
Life is about creating choices and making decisions and sometimes it’s about chasing your passion or your dream. But in order for us to reach our dream or goal, we have to strive harder and harder everyday.
Everyday will be a struggle, but it’ll be worth it in the end.
In order for us to find true happiness with other person, we must seek happiness in ourselves first. We can not depend our happiness to other person. Love yourself first, always. I have written that in my previous post.
When we were younger, we used to dream and set goals for our future but the sad truth is….We can NOT plan our life ahead. It’s okay to set goals and have dreams, but if we didn’t achieve it, it’s okay not to feel bad about it. I’m sure God has better plans for us.
It’s true that being in our 20s is different from how it was for our parents and grandparents. But by this age, it’s a perfect time for us to figure out who we are and what we want to do with our life. As I mentioned earlier, my life isn’t what I always imagine back when I was in highschool. My life is not perfect, it’s far from perfect. But, I am happy with what I have now, with the people I’m with. I am contented. They say when you grow older you’ll realize and learn to value more the people around you than any material things, it will be presence over presents. I guess that’s true.
As the famous saying goes, “Life is NOT a race”. Our life isn’t about money, job, partner, and marriage or any of the other things we’re freaking out about. Just learn to live your life to the fullest, have fun. Learn to do what you gotta do step by step. God created our life differently from others, we just have to trust and believe Him that everything has its perfect timing. We just have to be patient.
Hang on, girl. Don’t worry! We’ll get there. 🙂